This is such an honest sentiment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on that! It resonates a lot as I'm literally blocking out me-time or rest-time in the day so I can train myself that rest is productive. And it is. I strongly believe that people make more impact when they do one thing that matters over 10 things that are urgent.
Yes, I can relate to you a lot. This is a uniquely Indian/Asian mindset - developed probably because resources are so few and there are so many of us. Studying in Europe made me realise something radical - I don't need these achievements under my belt to be worthy of love or rest or create moments of joy to myself, rather, my first priority should be to enjoy the meandering journey I'm on, everything else is secondary. It took a long, long time and some therapy but now I make time for these things - make a nice meal. Visit and talk to a friend. Sketch a little. Stop postponing joy for work related stuff. Visit a cafe alone. I treat myself as a distinguished guest, for whom I'll lay out the nice crockery and the scented candles. It'll take time but you'll need to turn you mind upside down - the things you've categorised as waste of time are the important things.
I’ve noticed the same shift when quick replies go to work messages while personal ones sit unanswered. That trade doesn’t feel serious in the moment, but it adds up over time. How are you trying to change this pattern in a practical way right now, especially on days when work pressure is at its peak and everything feels urgent?
Feels like we’re seeing so much of the outside world every day that we’re slowly forgetting to live in our own. There’s just too much coming at us - people, opinions, updates and I don’t think we were meant to take it all in at once. It kind of turns life into this endless checklist. Maybe being present isn’t natural anymore, it’s something we have to choose.
This is such an honest sentiment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on that! It resonates a lot as I'm literally blocking out me-time or rest-time in the day so I can train myself that rest is productive. And it is. I strongly believe that people make more impact when they do one thing that matters over 10 things that are urgent.
You shared your version, but looking around, I felt you wrote about society
Yes, I can relate to you a lot. This is a uniquely Indian/Asian mindset - developed probably because resources are so few and there are so many of us. Studying in Europe made me realise something radical - I don't need these achievements under my belt to be worthy of love or rest or create moments of joy to myself, rather, my first priority should be to enjoy the meandering journey I'm on, everything else is secondary. It took a long, long time and some therapy but now I make time for these things - make a nice meal. Visit and talk to a friend. Sketch a little. Stop postponing joy for work related stuff. Visit a cafe alone. I treat myself as a distinguished guest, for whom I'll lay out the nice crockery and the scented candles. It'll take time but you'll need to turn you mind upside down - the things you've categorised as waste of time are the important things.
I’ve noticed the same shift when quick replies go to work messages while personal ones sit unanswered. That trade doesn’t feel serious in the moment, but it adds up over time. How are you trying to change this pattern in a practical way right now, especially on days when work pressure is at its peak and everything feels urgent?
Feels like we’re seeing so much of the outside world every day that we’re slowly forgetting to live in our own. There’s just too much coming at us - people, opinions, updates and I don’t think we were meant to take it all in at once. It kind of turns life into this endless checklist. Maybe being present isn’t natural anymore, it’s something we have to choose.